Is it Friday again already?? Wow!
Today’s flashback is Schnider in October 2007 when we arrived home from Haiti.
I remember, after he had his lip surgery I cried because I missed that wide, cleft smile!
It was so….him, for so long. What a sweetie he is!
Can you believe that this is the same baby??!!
I can’t not believe how expensive homestudies are. I yi yi. A couple of the places I’ve talked to are in the $1,500 range. There is one place that is doing them for $1,000. <faint> Is that normal or just Ohio?
So here is what is going on currently. We are feeling pretty good about the WACAP AAI program. They have a good fee schedule, a no-interest loan and a grant program that we qualify for (yippee!). They have been great to talk to so far and everyone has been really nice. I have heard only really good things about them, so all looks good on that front.
There is another situation that might be a slight possibility for us. A baby girl in TX is in need of a family. She is 2 months old and has some (unusual) special needs. We are waiting to get her medical information. She is darling and depending on what her medicals look like, we may ask to be considered for her. A lot depends on the extent of her medical needs. We’ll have to just see what happens.
Had our first snow last night. Keith’s school was actually canceled today. Funny how teachers get as excited about snow days as the kids. :) The snow lasted all of an hour and then melted away. K. kept yelling at the sun to go away because it was melting the snow. The kids can’t wait to build snowmen.
Has anyone used or heard of anyone that has used WACAP’s African American Infant program? (they call it their AAI program) We are seriously considering signing up with this agency. If you would have told me a year ago we would be doing a domestic adoption I would have laughed at you, but I really think this is the direction we’re being led. I’m so nervous about putting together a profile!
How do you like that for an inspired title? Sorry for the lack of postings.
Hope everyone enjoyed seeing the new picture of Schnider as much as I did. He looks so happy! That is such a relief. We still, of course, miss him SO MUCH. I still find myself on the verge of tears once or twice a day when I come across one of his things or when F. asks me in the mornings if Schnider is back yet. I think K. gets it that he isn’t coming back, but F. (who is 3.5) doesn’t really seem to understand or remember that he lives in Haiti now with his mommy and daddy and isn’t coming back. ~sigh~
Our preservice class is (kinda) over. The class we attended is over, but we missed yesterdays class so we have to go on November 21 to another class so we can make it up. I heard it was a tough day as its the day they deal with sexual abuse. Yuck.
In the last week or so we’ve gathered a lot of adoption information and we’re at this poring leaning towards going one direction but not 100% sure yet. We’re going to try to sit down soon and look at all the paperwork again and start making some firm decisions. The one direction we’re leaning looks REALLY good, if it is as good as it appears. We’ll see…
In the midst of researching we came across various adoption situations that piqued our interest:
1. Two Haitian brothers (here in the U.S.) ages 8 months and 24 months. Oooo, I was hoping we could get more information on this situation as it sounded right up our alley, but the agency never emailed me back. :(
2. A Mexican baby girl due soon (in a month!) that is going to be born with Spina Bifida. We actually are still waiting to hear some more information on this situation and what the fees will be. If we don’t end up being the family for this sweet baby girl, we have friends who might be interested. (I bet some people can guess who that would be!)
3. Expectant mom looking to place her baby with an AA family. We aren’t AA, but since we have other adopted children in the family the agency thought the mom might be interested in us. Fees too high for us though.
4. Biracial baby in FL (I think?) born several weeks ago and has been in the hospital until now. Not sure what his medical needs are – I never heard back from the agency.
5. Several moms due with African American babies soon and families are needed to present to them.
Etc, etc, etc. I think I’ve probably talked to 20 or 30 agencies in the last week. Most, the fees are just way out of our budget range. I yi yi.
Thoughts I’d get down a couple of things that K and F have said/done lately. I keep reminding myself that I need to write these things down, I know that 10 years from now we’ll be kicking ourselves to remember some of these things from their childhood. That’s what my mom says about my sisters and I anyway. I guess this is better than nothing!
– I was sitting on the couch looking through one of the waiting child booklets we got from an agency (mostly international children with special needs). K. (age 6) came and sat on the couch and glanced at the book. She then, very seriously, started studying the pictures. F. (age 3.5) came over and pointed to a little Indian boy and asked “That’s me?” I explained to him (them) that this book has pictures of little kids that don’t have any families and that Keith and were thinking about having a child who doesn’t have a family come live with us so we can be their family. At that point, K. came alive and very quickly told me what type of child we should have come live with us. Per K.’s instructions – we must adopt a girl. A little bit older than K. but not very big. She must be nice and “not wild” (K. said “not wild” several times”) K. also specified that the girl should be from China (her best friend is from China). (I didn’t have the heart to break it to her that we can’t adopt from China.) But then, she spotted a little boy from India (not the one F. thought was him) and said that we should have him come live with us because “he looks like Schnider”. F. had no opinions on our future child.
– This happened a while ago but I keep forgetting to write it down. We were walking in Walmart when we passed the photo studio. It was closed and dark inside there. F. pointed into the studio as we passed and said “Is that Outer Space”. I told him no, it was a place where people take pictures and that outer space was up in the sky where the moon is. He thought for a second and said:
F: “I want to be a space man when I get big”.
Me: “You mean you want to be an astronaut?”
F: “Yes, an ater-not (pause…) or a crocodile.
So now we know F.’s career ambitions.
– K. did something she thought was hysterical the other day. Keith got something in the mail that came in a large box full of those little packing peanuts. K. and F. spent about an hour playing with them one afternoon when K. came up with an idea that greatly excited them. She came upstairs and searched through the drawers until she found some markers and some ribbon. She asked me to cut a long piece of ribbon off, which I did. She then disappeared again and about 15 minutes later came back carrying the box. They had drawn and wrote all over it. K. wrote “I love you” drew hearts, flowers, designs etc and wrote “For Ceef” (Keith) They then tied the ribbon around the box and K. asked me to make it into a bow. She then, proudly and excitedly announced that when Keith came home I should give him the box and tell him it was a present from K. and F. She said he will be very excited and will open it. But when he looks inside (here K. breaks into hysterical laughter) there will be nothing inside but packing peanuts! It was pretty funny to see how completely excited she was at the prospect of tricking Keith. Funny kid… can that be considered her first practical joke?
Off to answer some of my 150 waiting emails…
about this little boy. I’ll share it later. But I just came across this picture again and had to share it. There is something in his eyes that makes me want to cry. You can’t see the bruises in this picture, but he had a lot of them. We were able to fill his belly that afternoon – but what about the weeks since we’ve left? Has he had enough food? Probably not. Have people been kind to him? Probably not. Does he have a safe, clean place to live? I can almost guarantee he doesn’t. He is one of thousands of kids in Haiti just like him. Kids living on the streets, begging, scavenging, doing what they can to survive. I wish I could help him. I wish I’d done more for him during that very short time he stood in front of me on a street in Haiti. I don’t know his name or how to ever find him again but I can still pray for him. Pray that somehow his circumstances change and he is able to get what he needs to live a happy, healthy and safe life.
We’ve been going to our adoption/fostercare preservice classes. I actually really enjoy the classes. A lot of the stuff is repeat information for me since I’ve been involved in and researching adoption for several years, but Keith is getting a lot of it as new information and I certainly haven’t thought a ton about foster care so that part is new to me. Our instructor is super nice and presents the information very well – so that helps.
I’m still researching programs/options. I just can’t feel comfortable with fostering right now – everything with Schnider leaving is too fresh. I’ve been emailing and talking to some various agencies. Sent in a pre-application with Spence Chapin’s ASAP program. They sound amazing. Keith and I received the WACAP waiting child book and have decided to inquire about a 2 year old boy that is listed in there. We’ll see what happens….not much can happen right now until we get these classes done.