Yesterday, I took pictures of this adorable, newly engaged couple. How cute are they?
Yesterday, I took pictures of this adorable, newly engaged couple. How cute are they?
General Adoption Update:
Well, we had our last homestudy appointment yesterday. It went really well. Our social worker is great, really laid back. I didn’t stress about it too much. She hopes to have the draft to us by next Sunday. The only paperwork left – we are waiting for my fingerprints and our child abuse clearing to come in the mail. That. Is. It. ~WHEW~ Can’t believe we’re almost done with it.
This morning, I got a small bit of information on Baby Girl. I’m talking small. I got her full name, dob, her birthparents names, the town she is from and that she is of sound mind. That’s it. I need to find out more details. Like why is she available for adoption? Is all her paperwork in order? Do her surviving relatives understand what adoption means and really want her to be adopted? And for me, the hardest but most important question – is there any way for us to support her family so she can stay with them instead of being adopted? As much as I want her – I still believe that if possible the best place for her is with her family (if she has any left) if they can provide for her and love her. Sweet baby girl – I just pray her life improves and that she will feel cared for and loved, however it happens.
It is SO HARD to coordinate all this through emails, especially when the person you are emailing 1. has poor internet access and 2. doesn’t seem as anxious as us to get this information together. So we continue to sit in a holding pattern as far as a referral.
If it looks like things are not going to work out with Baby Girl in the next week or so I guess we’re just going to have to have the lawyer start looking for another referral. I don’t know when to stop trying? The whole thing makes me sad. :( For various reasons, I really, really thought that this baby was supposed to be ours. God hasn’t said no yet, but I’m not sure how long and hard to keep pushing? ~sigh~ It would help so much and be SO much easier if I could just make a quick trip over there and figure all this out. But unless God drops an extra $2,000 in our laps, we just can’t do it.
So for those of you following along. Our next steps:
Get completed homestudy back.
Receive I-600A approval (hopefully sometime in September)
Formally accept a referral (sooon?????)
Send homestudy to lawyer in Uganda (sometime in September)
Travel (still praying I can travel before October is over)
For anyone still reading this – I would like to ask that everyone please pray for the finances for the rest of this adoption.
We are about $3,500 short at this point. I know it doesn’t seem like a lot – but for us it is. We have no where else to pull it or borrow. We just don’t have it. I’m getting ready to send some grant applications out. It’s a long shot, but maybe some organization will hear our story and want to help. We also have a fundraiser in the works. I know it won’t make the full $3500 but I’m hoping it will help. I’ll post more details on it soon.
And now, just because our little Haitians are just so darn cute, I’ll leave you with K. and F.’s smiling faces.
Goodness, how I love these two….I’m so blessed to be their sister.
Today, as I sat and searched for cheap tickets to Haiti so that I could go see my sweet Schnider-bug, the tears came. They no longer come several times a day, like they did at first. Now, I can usually mention him without crying. I can glance at his pictures on the wall and not burst into tears. I can even walk in his room and not cry. That has taken a long time.
I have a confession. Until last week, his room was exactly the way it was his last morning here – it looked just like it did that morning 10 months ago when I walked into his room and slowly picked that sweet, sleeping baby up out of his crib and felt him snuggle into my chest. It was exactly the same, dirty clothes on the floor, milk stains on the crib sheet, opened tube of rash cream on the changing table, toys everywhere. The truth? After I got back from Haiti, I hated going in that room. I felt like I couldn’t breath when I went in his room. I only went in when I had to. Like when we moved his highchair from the dining room to his room, several days after I got back. And several weeks later when we were finally brave enough to pack up all the toys from the living room and put them away. The door to his room has been closed since October 2008. Only opened when absolutely necessary.
Last week, in preperation for our home inspection, Keith cleaned his room. Washed and packed away the laundry, put all the toys away, swept the floor. His door has been open since then. Everything is where it always was, the crib, the changing table, the dresser, but it’s been OK. Somehow, it seems to have helped to have it all cleaned up.
As I was sitting here looking at tickets, I couldn’t help but think of the last time I saw Schnider. 10 months ago. 10 LONG months ago. I can’t believe it’s been 10 months. I can’t believe I’ve missed almost a year of his life. He still feels so much like “our” baby. I don’t know if that will ever change. My heart still aches every.single.day thinking about him. I miss him so much.
I can’t wait until I can see him. I want to see how much he’s changed. I want to see how much he loves his mom now – I want to see how much his momma loves him. I actually WANT to see him prefer her over me. I really do.
I can’t wait to be able to hold him, kiss him and hear his voice. It has been so long since I’ve heard his little voice. Sometimes I forget exactly what it sounds like – he has the cutest little voice. Chelsey brought that up the other day and I just had to go home and watch one of the videos from when he was here, just had to be reminded of his voice.
I hope and pray I’ll be in Haiti soon to see him. Soon, soon, soon….
OK – so the orphanage director we’ve been talking to about baby girl emailed me yesterday and said I would have baby girls information in my inbox “early tomorrow” (today). So, of course, I set out to try and guess what that means.
Does that mean “early tomorrow” his time? Which would be the middle of the night my time. Which means it should be in my inbox when I get up in the morning (it wasn’t).
Or does that mean “early tomorrow” my time, which means he’d be sending it evening his time, which is possible I suppose if he was going to send it before he left for the day. But then, what does “early tomorrow” mean anyway – what is early to him? Early morning, before noon, before dark? Am I crazy?
It is 6pm in Uganda right now. I’m guessing I won’t get anything today, but I suppose there is still a chance….
Our social worker called yesterday morning and cancelled our homestudy appt for that afternoon. Car troubles. Bummer…. :(
So our last homestudy appt is re-scheduled for next Sunday. We have a few papers not back or done yet so I hope we can have EVERYTHING ready to go by next weeks appointmentment.
Adoption Update August 15th 2009
No news on baby girl. The orphanage director hasn’t emailed me back. I sent an email yesterday and just asked what is going on. There are things/issues with the orphanage that are being dealt with that I don’t really feel like I can write about right now – but it is a bit of a sticky situation. I have a feeling things will not work out with this baby girl. Please pray for her.
We did find a lawyer we REALLY like and think we may go with him. So I guess that is some good news.
Our last homestudy appt is tomorrow! As far as paperwork left we still need:
– 1 reference letter
– child abuse clearance (taking them forever to come back)
– birth certificates (forgot about this!)
– fire safety inspection (fire dept will not call me back!)
– I-600A approval.
So the plan from here:
Pay the retainer on the attorney (end of the month)
Finish homestudy stuff (by the end of the month)
Pay the rest of the homestudy fees (by the end of the month)
Go see Schnider (end of the month)
Receive a referral (after the attorney receives his retainer fee)
Mail Homestudy and I-600A approval (if ready)
Travel in October (hoping and praying!)
Home before Thanksgiving ????
That’s my dream timeline. :)
A couple of days ago, K. was drawing pictures on her easel. On top of the pictures she wrote “All the sings girls like”.
This was obviously supposed to be “All the things girls like” but K. has no top teeth so when she sounds things out, they come out a bit different.
For example she can’t make the “th” sound right now. So “thing” becomes “sing”.
My mom pointed the word out and said it for her, emphasising the “th” sound. She said “and what do you need to make the “th” sound?” (meaning what letters) — K. got a mischevious look in her eye and exclaimed “TEETH!”
LOL. She cracks us up.
K. and F. were eating waffles this morning for breakfast. F. looked at my affectionately and said in a sweet voice “Whenever I eat waffles, I think of you.” <smiles>
I had to try so hard not laugh….I guess because I’m the only one that fixes waffles for them??? It was very sweet. :)