Archive for May, 2011

May 29, 2011

Adoption Grants & Loans

I get emails quite often from families in the adoption process looking into adoption grants and loan programs.   I’ve tried for a while to keep a somewhat up to date list of these programs to share with families.   I thought I would share it here too.  Eventually, I’ll make a separate page/tab for these so they are easily accessible and I hope we can keep it up-to-date.  

I am not affiliated with any of these organizations.  Some (many, maybe most) have religious requirements.  Most require families to use an agency (no independent adoptions) and some do not give grants to singles.   You’ll have to read the fine print on each of the websites.  :)  Be sure to drop me a note and let me know of any that I have missed so I can update the list.    Here goes:

Abba Fund (loan)
Lifesong for Orphans (matching grant or loan)
A Child Waits
Gift of Adoption
Katelyns Fund
Lydia Fund
Pathways for Little Feet (loan)
Room for One More Child
Help Us Adopt
Show Hope
Ava’s Hope
Founding Family
Golden Dawn
National Adoption Foundation
Orphans Impact
Orphans Ransom
Our Creators Hope
Sea of Faces
Little Flowers
OATH Fair Hope
Eliya’s Heart
Sophie’s Foundation
Grace Hands of Hope
MICAH Fund (African American infants only)
JSC Foundation

Who’d I miss?




May 26, 2011

Oh my goodness!!!

We got new pictures today our of our beautiful, sweet Schnider-boy!

He’ll be four in June. FOUR. I just can hardly believe it.

He looks so big, healthy and happy in these pictures!!!

Oh, how we love and miss him….


May 20, 2011

Two weeks…

In two weeks I’ll be here….

Excited to get back to this beautiful country and get LOTS of work done. 
Nervous to be leaving my little man. 
I know he’s in good hands with his daddy but leaving your baby is never easy.  ~sigh~

Two weeks!

May 18, 2011


We had the opportunity to go to KY recently and attend the CAFO Summit VII!  It was GREAT and I hope to write more about it later.   We found this gorgeous little park with waterfalls and fountains across the road from our hotel.  It was hidden back beside a Papa Johns executive building.   Mayer was so stinkin’ cute and loved the waterfalls. :)

May 17, 2011

IRS woes….

Oi.  The IRS is not my friend right now.

As most adoptive parents trying to claim the adoption tax credit know, this is taking forever. 

We filed our taxes in February.  We claimed the  adoption tax credit knowing we would be adopting again.  The plan was to use part of the tax credit to pay towards the next adoption.  I would never have dreamed we would be here three months later and no money in sight.   It looks like most taxes claiming the adoption tax credit are going start to being audited.  Us included.  We sent all of our receipts, etc a month ago.  Still nothing.  I’ve heard rumors that it could be July before we see the credit….  ~sigh~

As you can imagine getting accuarte (or any) information from the IRS is next to impossible.

Anyone have any real knowledge of what is going on at the IRS?

May 10, 2011

Anika Needs a Family

My sweet friend Lovelyn is advocating and fundraising for this beautiful little girl in Eastern Europe.  Anika is going to be 3 years old in August and needs a family!  She is HIV+ but don’t let that scare you!   There is no risk to you or your family if you bring her into your lives and this little girl should be able to live a long, normal life with the right medicines!  Get educated about adopting HIV+ children here.

There has been over $8,000 pledged to her adoption fund already! 

Can’t adopt?  Consider hosting a Love for Anika party and raising money so that someone else can adopt her!

Interested in adopting Anika?  Visit Reece’s Rainbow to find out how. 

May 5, 2011

Special needs boys with $15,000 – $20,000 grants!

These sweet little boys all need families.   

They all have special needs, are in eastern Europe and they all have huge grants for their adoptions!

Anthony has Cerebral Palsy. ($20,000+ grant)

 Tanner has a kidney dysfunction. ($20,000+ grant) 

Eddie has Cerebral Palsy and likely FAS.  ($16,000+ grant)




Email Andrea at Reece’s Rainbow for more information on these kids!

May 4, 2011

“Despite economic growth, India lets its girls die.”

See article and more pictures here.

MORENA, India (AP) — The room is large and airy, the stone floors clean and cool — a welcome respite from the afternoon sun. Until your eyes take in the horror that it holds. Ten severely malnourished children — nine of them girls.

The starving girls in this hospital ward include a 21-month-old with arms and legs the size of twigs and an emaciated 1-year-old with huge, vacant eyes. Without urgent medical care, most will not live to see their next birthday.

They point to a painful reality revealed in India’s most recent census: Despite a booming economy and big cities full of luxury cars and glittering malls, the country is failing its girls.

Early results show India has 914 girls under age 6 for every 1,000 boys. A decade ago, many were horrified when the ratio was 927 to 1,000.

The discrimination happens through abortions of female fetuses and sheer neglect of young girls, despite years of high-profile campaigns to address the issue. So serious is the problem that it’s illegal for medical personnel to reveal the gender of an unborn fetus, although evidence suggests the ban is widely circumvented.

“My mother-in-law says a boy is necessary,” says Sanju, holding her severely malnourished 9-month-old daughter in her lap in the hospital. The woman, who goes by one name, doesn’t admit to deliberately starving the girl but only shrugs her own thin shoulders when asked why her daughter is so sick.

She will try again for a son in a year or two, she says.

Part of the reason Indians favor sons is the enormous expense in marrying off girls. Families often go into debt arranging marriages and paying elaborate dowries. A boy, on the other hand, will one day bring home a bride and dowry. Hindu custom also dictates that only sons can light their parents’ funeral pyres.

But it’s not simply that girls are more expensive for impoverished families. The census data shows that the worst offenders are the relatively wealthy northern states of Punjab and Haryana.

In Morena, a sun-baked, largely rural district in the heart of India, the numbers are especially grim. This census showed that only 825 girls for every 1,000 boys in the district made it to their sixth birthdays, down from an already troubling 829 a decade ago.

Though abortion is allowed in India, the country banned revealing the gender of unborn fetuses in 1994 in an attempt to halt sex-selective abortions. Every few years, federal and state governments announce new incentives — from free meals to free education — to encourage people to take care of their girls.

In Morena, a Madhya Pradesh state government program offers poor families with one or two daughters a few thousand rupees (a few hundred dollars) for every few years of schooling, and more than 100,000 rupees ($2,250) when they graduate high school.

But while a handful of Indian women have attained some of the highest positions in politics and business — from late Prime Minister Indira Gandhi to Pepsi CEO Indra Nooyi — a deep-rooted cultural preference for sons remains.

Even the government has accepted that it has failed to save millions of little girls.

“Whatever measures that have been put in over the last 40 years have not had any impact,” India’s Home Secretary G.K. Pillai said last month when announcing the census numbers.

In Morena’s homes, villages, schools and hospitals lie some of the answers to why the country keeps losing girls.

In the district hospital’s maternity ward, a wrinkled old woman walks out holding a just-born girl wrapped in a dirty rag like an unwelcome present. Munni, who uses only one name, is clearly unhappy. Her daughter-in-law has just given birth to her sixth girl in 12 years of marriage.

Will the daughter-in-law go through another pregnancy?

“Everyone wants boys. A boy takes care of you in your old age,” Munni says.

As a mother-in-law, Munni will likely have enormous control over her son’s wife, influencing how many children she has and nudging or bullying her to bear a son.

According to the current CIA “World Factbook,” the United States has a birth ratio of 955 girls per 1,000 boys. In China, where families with a strong preference for boys sometimes resort to aborting their baby girls, there was a birth ratio of 885 girls per 1,000 boys.

District hospital head R.C. Bandil said his facility strictly obeys the law against using sonograms to reveal the gender of a fetus, adding that the sex ratio at birth there is as high as 940-945 girls per 1,000 boys.

Bandil said that for ages 6 and under, however, the ratio fell to 825 girls per 1,000 boys.

Part of the reason lies in the hospital’s malnutrition ward.

“Women cry when they have girls,” nurse Lalitha Gujar says as she spoons powdered coconut, peanuts and sesame seeds into bowls of fortified milk to nourish the tiny children.

All nine mothers of the sickly infant girls say they want sons — to look after them when they get old, because their sisters-in-law have more sons, because their mothers-in-law demand male children.

“If a woman has a boy, for a month she will be looked after. If she has a girl, she’ll be back in the fields in three days,” says Sudha Misra, a local social worker.

An exhausted mother who faces neglect, poor nutrition and blame for producing a daughter is likely to pass on that neglect, social workers say. For an infant, that can mean the difference between life and death.

“A malnourished child will get sick and the chances of death are very high,” Bandil says.

Males get first priority. “First the husband is seated and fed, then the brothers and then whatever is left is fed to the girls,” says Bandil. “If there are two mangoes in the house, first the boy will get to eat.”

For the very poor, the pressures to bear sons result in mistreatment of both the baby girl and mother. And rich women are not immune to this mistreatment if they fail to bear male children.

For those with money, it’s often about being able to locate a radiologist who, for a cost, will break the law and reveal the sex of the fetus, or being able to fly abroad for such tests.

A 2007 study by the rights group ActionAid India found that gender ratios were worse in urban areas, and that sex-selective abortions were more common among wealthier and higher-caste people who could afford ways to learn the gender of fetuses.

The law is not enough to combat “a society that values boys over girls,” says Ravinder Kaur, a professor of sociology at New Delhi’s Indian Institute of Technology.

“Laws are good because they may act as a deterrent” she says, but sex-selective abortions continue underground because “people find more devious ways.”

May 1, 2011

We’re happy it’s spring…